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First-Time Lesbian Sex at Midlife.
Most girls who work out they're lesbos later in life have some jitters when they're facing their first sexual experience. As a coach, I regularly hear questions like, "What do I do?" and "How do I do it?" I also regularly hear comments like, "What if i am unable to please her?" and "What if I don't like it?" Please, relax! Remember, lesbian sex is, above all, FUN. There are some real positives about lesbian sex that actually can reduce strain, compared to hetero sex. * There are no Problems about getting pregnant. This is gigantic.
No contraception, no "slipping up" and then having to attend on the fringe of your seat three weeks to work out if you have missed. Absolutely freeing.
* Then there's the issue of orgasms.
Men have "one and done," so fundamentally in hetero sex when he is satisfied, the experience is over. Not so with lesbian sex. With multiple orgasm capacity it lasts while we need it to.
* Lesbian sex isn't vanilla. Simply by reason of the indisputable fact that it IS lesbian sex! It's imperative not to fall into a rut, though. Keep it fresh.
* Communication is less complicated, since you talk the same language. Males and females have different communication styles and this will finish up in misunderstandings when it comes to sex.
* Then naturally, the best advantage is that you are having sex with a woman, which naturally is what you have been wanting! Now, let's say you have been going out with a girl a number of times and you believe you are getting close. If the woman is also just coming out ( this frequently happens to mid-lifers ) there's infrequently less stress surrounding the loss of your lesbian virginity. You can learn together.
While there are "how to" books available on the topic, you most likely will just finish up doing what comes natural. I do endorse the books as a cool way to open communication about the topic and maybe expand your idea of what makes up sex and your exploration of each other. When the experience does occur, you will probably find it a completely natural and great experience.
Then again some girls do describe their first time as weird. This is completely OK. You've been used to having hetero sex and this is something new. If the weird feeling continues, or you are feeling very uncomfortable or do not like lesbian sex, maybe you must rethink your alignment. If you're stepping out with a girl which has experience, you can feel under more stress.
So, why not let her take the lead? Again, relax. Do what comes natural. There are no wrong and right strategies to have sex. Hear your better half, not only what she's's asserting, but her soon...breathing, complains, sighs. It is feasible to hurt her, but again, watch your better half's expressions, listen rigorously and take your cues from that. Keep communicating, before, during and after sex. Sex is always a learning experience when you're with a new partner. So, basically each time with someone new will be a first time. Each of you has different things that turn you on and you need to learn that about one another.
While you'll have read books or heard others' experiences and you suspect you know what lesbian sex is, the actuality is that there's a great deal of adaptation in sexual styles and desires among girls. Some ladies may need oral sex, others may think it's a turn-off, some ladies may like penetration, others do not some women may love their nipples touched and for others it may do nothing, or be unpleasant. Even if your better half is experienced, it's still her first time with YOU, too.
Ensure she knows that you are a lesbian virgin. That'll be something she's thinking about...making sure it's great for you the initial time. So, the field will not be as uneven as you might imagine. When having lesbian sex for the initial time, remember, there isn't any right and wrong, just what you both like to do. There are few rules, just be natural and keep communicating - stay mindful of how she feels and tell her how you are feeling and what you like, too. Keep these things in mind and I'm sure of one thing - your very first time will definitely not be your last!
Now You Will Find A Good Lesbian Woman... Even If Your Present Position Appears Defenseless.
So, you're attempting to find a GOOD lesbian girl. However where do you find one? If you've been having nothing aside from bad luck in your hunt for the right woman possibilities are that you've been looking in all the very unlikely places. Give it some thought girls, when you're fishing for that rainbow trout you don't go casting your line into murky waters. To catch that perfect rainbow you have got to go to where the rainbows are ; in that cool, clean, mountain stream water.
Well, it works the same way with lesbian girls. If you are hunting for a bottom dweller then just keep on fishing at the bars, clubs and parties. What do you believe you are really going to catch? Do not be surprised if you hook up with someone that likes to drink, and party and investigates all of the other girls. The same is true for those, how shall I say it sharks.
You know the type. The ones that are tough to get. They give you a great fight and they are a enormous quantity of fun to catch. However getting one into the ship is a complete different story. They can either break the line or beat about and break your leg and then hop into the sea. And do not be shocked if they bite your fingers off in the act. Some girls are the same way, wild, free, fighters carnivores. They have teeth sharper than razors and they'll eat anything including you.
So, what about the rainbow? Where is she and how do you catch her? To catch a good lady you can go where good lesbian ladies go. If you want a smart, perceptive and stylish lady, then go to the university or varsity libraries. If you are more interested by a healthy nurturing lady, go to the surgeries and hospices. If you would like a forceful athletic lady go to the gymnasiums or tennis courts.
You see, the general concept here is that form follows function. It's right in nature and it's right with girls also. Monkeys have tough arms and they swing in trees. Giraffes have long necks and they eat leaves on the highest branches. And horses well, horses run because they're built for speed. When looking out for a good lesbian girl remember form follows function. The next thing you must ask is "Just exactly what's a good woman?" The definitions are only constricted by the imagination and each lady has his preferences. As for me, I wanted a girl with good morals. A wanted a lady that thought in the Lord God. A woman that was truthful, devoted, loving, clean and sober.
where do you find such a lesbian woman? Form follows function, so, I went to varsity and much to my continual surprise there were all types of good girls there. It was actually the ideal fishing hole for me. Just the sort of ladies I had been attempting to find all my life. I thought that faculty girls would be dull. Boy was I ever wrong! The last piece of recommendation before you go running off to college looking to haul in those lovely honeys.
There's an old proverb that's's really applicable for us men when watching out for a good woman, and I found it to be true with me... When the coed is prepared the teacher will appear. Now, think about that for an immediate because it's so major. You might also say it like this, "When the fisherman is prepared the fish will appear." Do you see where I'm going with this, gals? When the good girl is prepared the good girl will appear! So, take some time. Don't rush it. All good things are worth waiting for... And worth waiting for. If you're prepared, when you expect it least that rainbow beauty will appear in your life.
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