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It’s never easy to figure out what a girl wants. It’s twice as hard when the two of you met online. Hard, but who said it’s not possible?! You simply need to learn how to ask the right questions and read between the lines.
Chatty girls
She’s really communicative. She tells you all her latest news. Gossips about her friends. Complains about her latest brawl with her little brother. Writes to you about her studies. Asks for help with her English exam questions. She doesn’t seem to be interested in learning much about you.
Diagnosis:
- she’s either looking for pen-pals and friends to chat with as it’s part of her personality; or
- she wants to improve her English skills and believes that personal contact with native speakers is the best way to do it.
- could be both as well.
Questions to as her:
- Do you want me to tell you about my life more?
- Are you interested in a serious relationship with someone like me?
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Romantic girls
No matter her personality – timid or outgoing – the girl is asking you personal questions. Wants to know more about your country and family. Insists that you tell her what you like about her. Shares her heart-felt dreams with you. Invites you to visit her in almost every other letter.
Diagnosis:
- she’s probably not looking for a fling, but a relationship that would last
- she might be lonely or unable to communicate with those of her circle of friends
- she might be desperate to find someone to love and marry her
Questions to as her:
- Do you fall in love easily?
- Do you have many friends? Who’s your best friend?
- Are you prepared to marry someone you only know a little or have seen just a time or two?
Withdrawn girls
She’s rather reactive: doesn’t usually initiate an exchange of letters, but replies every letter you send her. Doesn’t inquire if you disappear for a few weeks. On the whole she doesn’t inquire much at all. She doesn’t seem interested, yet she doesn’t send you off looking for someone else. She’s not curious to know anything about you. Reluctant to answer personal questions.
Diagnosis:
- she could be just a very shy girl trying to compensate the lack of friends in real life by contacting people online
- she could be of timid personality or have bad communication skills
- she just might be not interested in you
Questions to as her:
- How do you spend your free time? Do you like parties and clubs with loud music?
- Do you go out much or you prefer to stay home and read a book?
- You don’t seem to be interested in me. Are you?
Material girls
She goes on and on about her approaching birthday and how all her friends abandoned her. She tells you her cell phone is broken and she just doesn’t make enough to buy the model that she wants, and how great it would be if you got it for her as it’s really not that expensive. She expresses her willingness to come and visit you in your own country. She tells you of the wedding dress of her dreams, and you can count it’ll cost like a house. She brags of the latest jewelry she purchased, yet never seems to make enough for the basic things in life. Or she could be constantly complaining for the hardships of life. Telling you how she needs your help and how she wants to be saved from it all.
Diagnosis:
- needy girl unwilling to solve her own problems and hunting after a knight to do it all for her
- material girl hunting after valuable presents
- scammer, hunting.
Questions to as YOURSELF:
- Are you sure you want to be her savior?
- Are you sure you want to be taken for granted?
- Are you sure you want to ask any questions to a scammer?
Of course learning what a girl really wants is a complicated task. In fact, some girls don’t even know what they want themselves. Other girls like to pretend something they are not. Yet if you take it as a mission and work carefully through your questions and the replies you get, sooner or later the picture will be quite clear to you. And once you know what she wants, it’s up to you what you do next. You can be the perfect guy who gives every girl exactly what she wants. Or you can stay focused on your goal, whatever it is. By the way, did you ask yourself already what do YOU yourself want from online dating? If not, better start there!!
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