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First of all, let me clear a few things up from the start. I’m not one of those desperate Russian girls willing to marry whoever just to get away from her country. I’m an educated young lady. I’ve studied and traveled abroad. I make my own living now and live separately from my elderly parents whom I financially support. Now that I sort of found myself professionally, I want to build a relationship with a decent and kind man.
I’m not absolutely disgusted with Russian men, as it would be utterly unjust to call each and every one them irresponsible clowns and drunks. But I’ve seen other cultures and a couple of my female friends are happily married to foreigners. So why limit myself in my search for Mr. Right to men of my own country, when Internet makes it so simple getting to know people from all over the world? I believe that mixed couples function even better than they themselves expected, once the two people manage to work through their differences. I’m not afraid of the challenge as I know the reward is much more gratifying. Now, what am I looking for in a man whatever country he is from?
How We Meet
Like most Russian girls I love my parents. I guess my mom won’t be thrilled to hear that I met my husband-to-be in the street or on the internet – either and both would seem to her as an improper encounter with your life partner. But I know that she’s only coming from the perspective on what’s good and what’s not for me. In the end she’ll comply because all she cares about is that I’d be happy. So, I really don’t care if someone introduces us to each other, or if we happen to work in the same building and meet at the cafeteria during lunch break. It makes no difference to me if we stumble into each other in the street or we meet by chance in a chat room. Actually, I would prefer getting to know the person online to see if he’s at all interesting to talk to, before we agree to see each other face to face.
How We Date
Dating is the most exciting and fun part of any relationship. You’re not just acquaintances anymore, but you’re not restrained by the responsibilities of marriage just yet. Most of the young Russian women that I know tend to take relationships seriously. So do I and I wouldn’t consider dating a person I hardly know. Therefore getting to the girlfriend/boyfriend stage, I’d expect Mr. Right to be willing to put much effort into learning lots about each other. Also I think spending enough time together is essential to see if we have that special bond, as well as physical attraction, that are important in a relationship. If he’s a foreigner – I can’t imagine seriously thinking about dating someone who’s never seen my family and friends, my country and its culture, as in this case he’ll be missing a significant part of who I am. The more time we can spend together – talking, laughing and doing things together – the better.
How We Build a Family
Every girl on the face of the planet wants to be forever with the one she believes to be her Mr. Right. That’s why people want family, I think. So if the relationship is working out in a way that satisfies both of us, the next step should be easy and natural when we’re reading to make it. In marriage the vast majority of Russian women stick to traditional values of mutual understanding, respect and faithfulness. My friends tell me that I’m a person who is grounded in reality and always know what I want. I know of the difficulties that expect a mixed couple when they start living together – from language difficulties to cultural misunderstandings. But any couple faces difficulties of one kind or another – that doesn’t make people stop their pursuit of happiness. Nothing ventured – nothing gain, I say!
Perhaps, you find nothing extraordinary in what a Russian girl expects from her man? Maybe I should be a little more demanding to make it a bit of a challenge? OK, then – on Saturdays I like to have my coffee in bed please!! That is not to be discussed!! :-) Still not scared? Then it seems like you’re ready for an adventurous trip to my homeland. Just make sure to introduce yourself in an email first so your Ms. Right knows who to expect.
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