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Your Job as a Role Model
by Anthony Kane, MD
A certain educator was once asked at what point should a parent
begin to prepare for child raising.
"How old are you?" the educator inquired.
"Twenty-three."
"You should begin twenty-three years ago."
What is the message? The single most important thing a parent
can do to educate a child is to provide the child with a good
role model. A parent has to work a whole lifetime becoming the
type of person that he wants his child to become.
The most important people in the world in the child's eyes are
his parents. They are his first and most important teachers.
The behavior of a child's parents leaves a permanent impression
in the child's subconscious mind. Why is this so? The reason
is that the most reliable source of priorities and values in a
child's eyes is his parents. Children have an innate trust in
their parents. They feel that everything their parents say and
do is the true and proper way to behave.
We all wish our children would do what we say and not what we do.
However, this is not how the mind of a child works. The
intellect of a child is undeveloped. As a result, children
function an emotional level, absorbing more from what they see
and hear around them than from what they are taught.
What is the take home message? The main thing for you to
realize is that you have far more influence on your child than
you probably realize. Your child is going to pattern himself
after you. That is how nature set it up. Your job as a parent
is to be the best role model that you can be. True, it is hard,
but that is the way it is.
The following is a story I heard recently that brings out the
extent to which your child learns from your actions.
A certain kindergarten teacher once warned a group of parents
to be careful how they behave in front of their children.
"By the way your children play in school," she said.
"I know which of you treat each other respectfully. I know
which of you use foul language at home. I know everything about
how you behave in your home by the way your child plays, talks,
and behaves."
Remember, you might think that everything that goes on in your
home behind closed doors is hidden from the world, but it is not.
Your child sees everything. Your child is going to take your
behavior and broadcast it to the world. Make sure that what he
is transmitting is something that you want the world to see.
Anthony Kane, MD
ADD ADHD Advances
http://addadhdadvances.com
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Anthony Kane, MD is a physician, an international lecturer, and
director of special education. He is the author of a book,
numerous articles, and a number of online programs dealing with
ADHD (addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html) treatment, ODD,
parenting issues (addadhdadvances.com/betterbehavior.html), and
education. Visit his website at http://addadhdadvances.com.
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