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Pammierose's Dream World
Within the content of my website, I discuss the subject of abuse.
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Within the content of my website, I discuss the subject of abuse. Abuse is a contraverisal subject, but as a Victim's Advocate and a Defender of a woman's right to come forward with the truth, it is now time for women to regain their independance and their freedom from the demons that lurk. Abuse comes in many forms ranging from verbal, to sexual. I believe that sexual abuse is the most heinous of all forms of abuse in that it literally kills the child within. I have also just recently had book on this subject published and details are in the website. The book is my biography and it was written for two primary purposes. The first is to let other victims know they are not alone and second, is to hopefully help others avoid common pitfalls.
The following is an excerpt from the book:
This is then: Childhood sexual abuse!! Oh No…Hide it in the closet! No one can find out. Not our family!! Tie it up with a pretty bow! Keep silent forever!! Nevermind that the victim will tragically spend all the days of their life in a world of pain to horrible to fathom by most..
This is Now: It is the twenty-first century and as tragic as it may be, it can’t be hidden anymore. The reality is that abuse is a very real problem in these United States. Today people are free to step forward and grab the attempt to help heal themselves. The monsters can no longer hope to stay hidden. They will be revealed and dealt with. Unlike before, victims can come forward and share their pain with others. They no longer have to feel like a dirty, nasty thing with no worth. This is how it should be.
I wish I had easy answers, but there are none. When a person so heinously abuses a young innocent child, they mentally kill that child in that they never experience childhood from that moment forward and even as they reach adulthood, they will always have problems making rash, constructive decisions for themselves. More times, than not, a victim will find themselves in one bad relationship, after another. Each abusive.
Some other symptoms of child abuse are that you never feel like you belong anywhere, you never fit in. You always feel like you’re on the outside looking in, you never feel that you are good enough, and one that is very destructive is you can become co-dependent. Another thing which can occur, is you can develop fractured personalities or (DID) Disassociative Identity Disorder. I have known individuals with this. As for me, when I was in my early 40’s, I developed severe panic disorder. Since I had never told a soul about my abuse, I never received counseling and my doctor told me that since it was never dealt with in any type of therapy, it would manifest in some way and it did in panic.
When I was 45, I also developed a cerebral aneurysm that required brain surgery to repair. I am told that aneurysms are primarily created through massive stress, so I have to believe that is why this one resulted, after the years and years of intense stress I have had to live with. I have to chuckle, although it isn’t very humorous. During my recovery from brain surgery, my doctor told me that I had to avoid stress at all cost. I thought to myself, “How does one do that in this life and continue to live”?
I don’t mean to sound negative, but I certainly don’t have the answers. However, I do believe that it is absolutely essential that anyone having been abused, receive counseling as quickly as possible. That is the only measure that can provide any real cure.
I have been to counseling sporadically, but never long enough. During these sessions, I was told over and over again that the best thing for me to do would be to confront the abusers. I always balked at this idea..it actually terrified me. I felt like they were backing me into a corner and giving me no recourse or an alternative which scared me senseless. During this time, my grandmother was still living and I knew if I came forward with the truth, she would be greatly hurt and I was not willing to subject her to this pain, so I kept silent.
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